Our thoughts and feelings are all over the place about this Ludacris custody situation! Does not being powerful and rich weigh against women in the court system? Does not having more money than the father help you loose a custody battle?
That is what rapper Christopher ‘Ludacris’ Bridges’ baby mama Tamika Fuller, in an Essay, says helped loss her custody battle. Fuller states:
“There is a favoritism shown to wealthy, male celebrities. If they even pretend to act like they care, even if the evidence clearly shows otherwise, they’re rewarded. Their lies are excused, and their past mistakes are viewed as growth while mistakes made by “regular” women many years ago are weapons used against them.”
The letter is very lengthy and in it Tamika explains how she and Ludcris begin having relations after a break up from his current wife Eudoxie (who at the time was just his girlfriend). She even goes into details about how Ludcris wanted her to abort the child after he found out she was pregnant. And in her words when Ludacris found out she was pregnant:
“The psychological manipulation began immediately. He broke down in tears when I told him that I wanted to keep our baby, and he begged me to abort the child whose heartbeat was developing in rhythm with my own. He told me that it would destroy his career and his image. I contemplated heavily on terminating my pregnancy. I don’t believe in forced parenthood or trapping anyone into raising an unwanted child. However, when I visited the clinic and heard my daughter’s heartbeat on the ultrasound, I knew I couldn’t go through with it.”
Ultimately though the end result was the judge favored with rapper/actor Ludcris giving him full custody of their daughter Cai Bridges. A decision that Tamika says she totally disagrees with. She says:
“Regardless of what a judge decides, having less money than the father does not mean that a mother cannot adequately care for her child. And we should not be penalized for not being wealthy in a misogynistic society that is financially hostile toward women. I want women out there who are going through this or who will go through this to understand that I hear you. I am you.”
If you would like to read the entire Essay, it can be found on www.madamenoire.com.